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HiddenMountain
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# Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:52
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First, Hello. Nice to know there's a few other nature lovers around.
I have one heck of a story on how I ended up here. But not now.
I'm writing because being out in the wilderness is nice and peaceful, there's just no other way to live as far as I'm concerned.
It is a lonely life though. My second wife was a mistake born from that loneliness. She was sweet and all, as long as the entire world revolved around her, and her "thousands of fans on the internet". I loved, and let go, and have this huge house in the forest and it seems crazy to be up here keeping the stove going for no discernible reason. Depression is a real enemy when you're so cut off from the outside world so you have to try to keep from going there! The internet is better than nothing but it can be a cold place where you don't dare have a problem!
It would be great to have the right person or people to look after the place this winter, just so I can look after my business in the city without having to worry about it.
It's completely off-grid with micro-hydro power, propane stoves and wood heat. I have enough firewood for the winter, if the winter isn't too long and cold.
It's like driving a manual transmission though. Water intake freezes sometimes, there's always a need to keep the electricity "balanced", there are gauges to keep an eye on... I guess it's the same for most rural places.
Anyway, hey out there to any other homesteaders.
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RichInTheUSA
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# Posted: 18 Nov 2016 08:27
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Hey back to ya. Sounds like you just needed the right wife to share your place and your life with. 
Are you looking to sell your place, or rent it out for the winter to have someone look after it? If so, where are you generally located?
Thanks for posting... have a good weekend.
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rmak
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# Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:48 - Edited by: rmak
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The best advice I got about relationships came to me later in life after a failed marriage and crashing and burning many other attempts.
It's really simple. Most of us seek a relationship with someone else for selfish reasons. We want a partner, we want someone to have fun with, we want to be happy, we want, we want, etc.
To have a successful coupling, dedicate yourself to finding out what the other person wants. Spend your time trying to do things to make him or her happy and contented. Quit worrying about what you want.
The great thing is that the other person gets it, and starts living his or her life with you and your happiness in mind.
Neither of you have to worry about getting what you want anymore, since the other person is doing it for you.
You might have to sacrifice and compromise to deliver what meets your partner's needs. So what? It's not about you.
Most of us are too immature to understand that simple advice. Sadly, it took me almost a half a century to figure it out.
May the good Lord bless you with a partner to share life with.
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DaveBell
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# Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:01
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rmak, well said bro.
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HiddenMountain
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# Posted: 18 Nov 2016 13:25 - Edited by: HiddenMountain
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Quoting: RichInTheUSA Are you looking to sell your place, or rent it out for the winter to have someone look after it? If so, where are you generally located?
Hi Rich, I'm in SW BC, near the Fraser Canyon. I don't want to sell, unless I get an offer that's too good to refuse, just looking for someone to look after the place while I'm not here. I could be traveling on business this winter and will still want to be able to land here.
rmak, Thanks for your well thought out reply. You described my approach to the relationship perfectly, unfortunately, narcissists will keep sucking the life out of you until there's just nothing left to give. I'm not perfect by any means but it does take two to make it work. God bless you too bro...
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OwenChristensen
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# Posted: 21 Nov 2016 20:01
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it takes a special kind of person to live alone in the wilderness. too bad you didn't find a good woman to share it with you. Most women that I know are too social to live with just me as company. Maybe you're like me then too. Man of few words.
good luck.
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Malamute
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# Posted: 21 Nov 2016 20:13
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May want to have a look around the homesteadingtoday forum. May find someone that appreciates the location and lifestyle to caretake, or someone more interested in sharing the dream with you.
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KinAlberta
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# Posted: 21 Nov 2016 20:41 - Edited by: KinAlberta
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10 Things I have learned -by Milton Glaser
Read number 8
"Self-righteousness and narcissism generally come out of some sort of childhood trauma, which we do not have to go into. It is a consistently difficult thing in human affairs. Some years ago I read a most remarkable thing about love, that also applies to the nature of co-existing with others. It was a quotation from Iris Murdoch in her obituary. It read ..."
https://www.miltonglaser.com/milton/c:essays/#4
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HiddenMountain
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# Posted: 22 Nov 2016 00:47
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Quoting: KinAlberta Read number 8
I did, and it was good. Thank you.
Got bashed around enough as a sprout, it left scars.
But the cool thing is how the sapling will force itself around the obstacle to get to the sun, and be much stronger as a result. No wonder God loves cedar trees...
Narcissism is basically being traumatized at such an early age that the poor soul becomes stuck at that age of development. I feel for them, because, as Milton said, "Blind pursuit of your own ends which excludes the possibility that others may be right does not allow for the fact that in design we are always dealing with a triad – the client, the audience and you." They are simply unaware of anyone else around them. Love to them is gain, and to the giver, pain.
I pray for them.
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HiddenMountain
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# Posted: 22 Nov 2016 00:53
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Malamute, thanks for the link. I appreciate it.
OwenC. Well, I try to be frugal with my words but sometimes ya just gotta speak up! Sales without talking would be challenging for example... 
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