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KC cabin
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# Posted: 23 Sep 2010 16:00
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Last month my wife and I started to use our little cabin again after a long absence. We were both so excited and it was so much fun for me to find this forum of like-minded cabineers. And then suddenly something very frightening happened and all of our dreams and plans were set aside indefinitely. My beautiful wife was suddenly struck with what we (and our doctor) feared was a mini stroke, or TIA, a likely harbinger of a deadly serious stroke. We are not old, we are healthy, active people. It seemed so sudden and so unfair to be hit with something like this.
We are Christians and we drew so much strength from our faith, the love of God and the prayers of friends and loved ones. We lived moment to moment , day by day through a battery of tests and appointments these last two weeks. Fear shadowed us, and yet peace sustained us.
I took a serious personal inventory of my relationship with my wife and I didn't like what a I saw in myself: selfishness, carelessness, and misplaced priorities. I was sad and deeply convicted: I had forgotten to truly cherish the love of my life. What if I lost her?
Now, here's the wonderful news. My wife appears to be in absolute optimum health. After extensive blood work, neurological exams, MRIs, etc. , the doctors are confident that she did not suffer a TIA episode. They now suspect that it was a "complicated migraine", a condition that mimics many of the same symptoms of a TIA.
And so, we have our lives back. We are headed off to our honeymoon cabin this weekend to celebrate. Words can not express how grateful I am to have this opportunity to rekindle my relationship with my wife.
Love the ones that love you - like there's no tomorrow.
KC
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hattie
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# Posted: 23 Sep 2010 17:29
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I love happy endings. God bless you both!
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Anonymous
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# Posted: 23 Sep 2010 19:26
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A truly inspiring story, Im going to go cherish mine right now :)
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Gary O
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# Posted: 23 Sep 2010 20:19
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Thank you KC for this testimony. The wife and I have been married for over 41 years, and from time to time get a tad crusty with each other, but we never let the sun set without expressing our love, and usually end off with a laugh about some recent event we've shared.
The wife and I are headed to the cabin this weekend. She loves nature so, and I love that she loves it.
Matter of fact, I'm headin' her direction soon as I quit typing.
Yeah, 'misplaced priorities'. Don't get caught up in them.
Enjoy the moment.
It's a gift.
That's why they call it 'the present'...
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cabinbasics
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# Posted: 23 Sep 2010 21:54
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That's cool KC! A little "correction" from third person in your marriage!
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Kithera
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# Posted: 27 Sep 2010 13:35 - Edited by: Kithera
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The wife and I have only been married for 5 years now, but even now we have a tendency to forget to love each other. Thanks for the reminder.
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KC cabin
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# Posted: 27 Sep 2010 16:59
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Thanks so much for the encouraging replies. We stayed at our cabin last Friday night through Saturday afternoon and it couldn't have been nicer. We had perfect weather, ate pan fried pizza, watched a classic Brit flick ("The Ladykillers"), and slept in our loft with the window wide open, breathing in the sweet mountain air. I even made our breakfast and coffee for a change. And I got "bonus points" for doing the dishes. ; )
Right after I made my original post I started to second guess myself. What my wife and I went through was a real "shadow of the valley of death" experience. I hate to trivialize it with my own fumbling attempt to convey something so personally challenging. Anyways, I don't know about you, but my little cabin paradise would be nothing without my wife.
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larry
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# Posted: 27 Sep 2010 21:37
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well said KC. it means nothing without someone special to share it with....strange, 9/23 was my 10 year anniversary.
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pheasantplucker
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# Posted: 12 Nov 2010 22:56
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God bless you both! Thank you for sharing your story.
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elkdiebymybow
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# Posted: 17 Jan 2011 19:50 - Edited by: elkdiebymybow
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KC,
I am so glad that she is ok. Funny how we can truck on through life and then WHAM! Out of nowhere life finds a way to toss us a challange. I'm happy that the two of you met that head-on and were able to overcome an obstacle. Sure makes you take measure and all of us that you have shared with I am sure take pause to listen to your words and your experience. I know we are all "manly men" and work with axes, chainsaws, power tools and the like, but KC does provide a moment of reflection and I thank him for sharing.
~Peace
A Poem inspired by KC's story:
Cabin Paradise
Although I sit here at my desk
My mind is far away
It's traveled to our cabin love,
I've got some things to say;
You are my pal, my closest friend
With whom I share this life;
Our cabin would be a different place,
If not for you, my wife;
Many times you told me "Drive up and work"
A weekend we could have shared,
You sent me alone many a time
And did so because you cared;
You worked hard on other things
Those weekends we were apart
Years ago when construction began
We made a real good start,
Seven years of rewarding work
We both have done our best
To build a place that is our own
A place to sit back and rest.
We're not quite finished and may never reach
A point where we are done,
There's always one more thing to do
This journey is so much fun!
Life has a way to sail on past
But we must take pause and pray
I do thank God for such a loving friend-
He did send you my way;
Our cabin is a peaceful place
Of sheer tranquility
Not for the logs, the stones and wood
Simply because you're here with me.
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claypat11
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# Posted: 17 Jan 2011 22:09
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Thank you for the post, KC....
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KC cabin
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# Posted: 22 Feb 2011 19:57
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I haven't been back to this site in awhile. Thank you all for your gracious comments. And, elkdiebymybow, that was a beautiful poem . . . I feel very honored.
I thank God that my wife is doing just fine now. Recently, an award winning journalist named Serene Branson had a scary stroke-like episode on air while reporting at the Grammys Awards. I watched the footage when it first went viral and felt that same helpless, sick feeling I had when my wife had her own 'neurological event'. Happily, I understand that after extensive testing, Serene, too, was diagnosed with having experienced a complicated migraine and not a stroke.
We're looking forward to getting back to our cabin (and brand new adventures) in about a month from now, when the last eight miles of dirt road look more navigable for a two wheel drive pickup truck. ; )
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bobrok
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# Posted: 22 Feb 2011 20:19
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KC,
If you hadn't bumped up this thread I may never have even read it at all. Thank you and everyone who commented here. A lot to contemplate and I am glad to hear things are better.
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