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Maryg
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# Posted: 23 Jun 2025 07:47pm - Edited by: Maryg
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For the last few years we’ve let my brother and his wife use our cabin one week in the summer when we’re not there, so they could take their children and grandchildren. We love doing that for the kids! Now this year, they just told us the kids can’t make it so they invited another couple instead. How do I tell them that the only reason I allow them to use it is for the kids? It takes a lot of cleaning and prep to get it ready, which I don’t mind doing for the kids, but not for adults that I don’t even know. How can I explain this without hurting anyone’s feelings?
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MtnDon
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# Posted: 23 Jun 2025 10:38pm - Edited by: MtnDon
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One of the first things that popped into my mind was, Is this a joke, or maybe some forum trolling? You are a new member, this is your first post and this seems like an odd question for this forum.
The second thought was that the kids count for more than your brother and his wife. In other words, if they did not have kids, you wouldn't offer them use of the cabin at all? Maybe your family dynamics are different from ours.
I don't think you can avoid hurting feelings.
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jsahara24
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# Posted: 24 Jun 2025 07:21am
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I'm with Don, you can't avoid it. Only way to avoid it is from the start.....
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Aklogcabin
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# Posted: 24 Jun 2025 07:26am
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Yeah, let em use it. But isn't it really enough ? If not then not your problem. Not your job to supply a resort.
For me. When I use or borrow something. Always leave it or return it better than you got it. Then folks do mind as much.
Also, yeah. Sharing the family cabin, yeah
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DaveBell
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# Posted: 24 Jun 2025 08:07am
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Quoting: Maryg Now this year, they just told us the kids can’t make it so they invited another couple instead.
They invited another couple without asking first? I would say no. It's your property, you make the rules. Where does it end? Tell them we are using the cabin this year.
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frankpaige
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# Posted: 24 Jun 2025 08:52am
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Maybe forego the cleaning and prep on the cabin.
There are times when feelings will be hurt. It’s Life.
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Brettny
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# Posted: 24 Jun 2025 10:12am
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Just simply say your not comfortable having people there you dont know.
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FishHog
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# Posted: 24 Jun 2025 10:29am
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Quoting: Brettny Just simply say your not comfortable having people there you dont know.
This.
Maybe start with "I wish you would have asked us before you invited someone else".
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gcrank1
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# Posted: 24 Jun 2025 02:32pm
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I am in agreement with Bret and FH.
After one time of letting relatives use our cabin we said Never Again.....
At least you know your fam knows how to operate your place, that's a big plus. The others, hmmmm, you have no idea what they Dont Know.
Then there is the liability question.
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